The coverage has ranged from philosophical (there are not enough Black men to go around because all of them are either flocking to white women or they’re in jail) to ridiculous (Black women need to harness their “anger” before they can be good partners).
Pure and simple, professional Black women are not getting married because they CHOOSE not to get married. Seriously, if a woman – any woman – wants to get married (or “get a man” as ABC puts it), she simply has to settle for someone. There are enough saggy-pantsed man-boys on the street corners for every Black woman IF she wanted one. Newsflash: She doesn’t want one. There are plenty of Hector Penates and Jon Gosselins to be had. She doesn’t want those, either. And if she wanted to be someone’s baby momma, well, P. Diddy and Lil Wayne always have room in their harems.
The fact is, instead of beating up on Black women for making the valid choice of not getting married, they should be applauded for taking control of their lives. Every professional Black woman I know leads a full life. They take multiple vacations every year, own their own homes and cars; and when they need male “companionship,” they get it. Black women are not “on the shelf,” they are living their lives on their terms. Why is there suddenly something wrong with that?
And why aren’t White people being studied? Someone please tell me why old White men keep marrying much younger women, only to get cuckolded (I’m looking at you, Larry King and Hugh Heffner)? Can a study be done on how a White wife doesn’t know her husband is cheating until the 13th mistress or hooker pops up out of the woodwork (yes, that would be you, Elin, Sandra and Mrs. Spitzer)?
From what I see, professional Black women may be making a good choice – you don't see professional Black women being Tiger Woodsed or Jesse Jamesed, do you?
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